“Red Flower will grow new Leaves and Buds…and so will we, so will we!”

Dear Reader:

I told “Big Red” good-bye yesterday.

It was tough to pull that last (“plug”) stem but a human analogy would be that “Big Red” had ceased taking in nourishment for several weeks…the last stem had started turning black, like the others did that Chelsey and I amputated earlier in hopes of saving one last piece of the root system.

But now all that was left was the final stem with green leaves (at the end) slowly turning yellow as the black took over more and more of the stem each day. I couldn’t bear to watch it any longer die from lack of nourishment. The stems were like hardening of the arteries…nothing was getting through.

I had to go in early yesterday morning to get some lab work/blood work done for my doctor’s appointment next week, then went by the store and got that chore done. It was still early when I returned…around 9:30. After I put the groceries up…I slowly walked out on the porch and told ‘Big Red’ good-bye.

I made a box and put the stem with the last green leaves in an air-tight plastic bag….wrote “Big Red” a note of appreciation for ten years of love and devotion…made a cover for a box to place everything in and even put some flowers around the box. A fitting tribute for “Big Red.”

History in a Nutshell: (For new readers)

I received a beautiful, red geranium on the day I returned home from my first mastectomy May 31, 2008. There was a large group of people already home when I arrived and lunch had been fixed…there were several presents and cards around…so by the time I started connecting gifts with cards I couldn’t find one inside the beautiful red geranium plant or even a separate card identifying the giver.

I placed the beautiful plant on the white bench on my front porch….never realizing it would stay right there for just over ten years. As time went by…nothing seemed to be able to kill this plant…heat, cold, bugs, storms and hurricanes. “Big Red” as I dubbed the plant was courageous, persistent, and loyal for a decade.

Eventually what took its life was its over extended abundance of blooms that finally pulled the root system from the pot and slowly began the decline this summer that resulted in its death yesterday.

A visual look at Big Red over the years….starting in 2010 with the blog.

This past Christmas Big Red was at its most beautiful….when the cold weather hit after Christmas it came inside for the longest time ever during the ice storm and then other nights Luke would carry it inside for me. Everyone in the neighborhood loved Big Red and would slow down and beep when they saw it.

During the early days of my first chemo infusion treatments in the summer of 2008 I would go sit in the sun and just talk to Big Red. It is amazing how close all God’s creations are in reality. There is no doubt Big Red came into my life when I most needed it  and now…?

Out of nine cuttings that Chelsey took when Big Red was struggling earlier this summer…only one “took.” Now Little Red (Big Red’s clone) sits inside the beautiful bowl Chelsey and Luke gave me with the plant inside. Yesterday I couldn’t bring myself to throw the big potted plant container away that Big Red called home for a decade…so I simply placed Little Red on top…hoping that the same courage and perseverance that kept Big Red blooming to everyone’s enjoyment for so long will be passed along to Little Red.

This was Big Red’s last bloom for me…as it struggled to stay alive while Chelsey and I did everything humanly possible we knew to help it. It was just its time…so now my hope lies in Big Red’s clone…Little Red. May Little Red carry on his father’s legacy of hope and courage.

 

 

 

At the end of the children’s book “Red Flower Goes West” a little boy’s red geranium survives all the trials and hardship of traveling in a covered wagon out west. Soon the little boy, like me, realizes that keeping that red flower alive for his mother is the most important thing on the trip. When they finally arrive….the little boy hands the red geranium to his mother and she says” Red Flower will grow new leaves and buds…and so will we, so will we.”

***I think I got left one last ‘smile of health’ from Big Red. The sciatica I have been plagued with the past few months left two days ago…Wednesday I felt a twing here and there but nothing like the sharp, shooting pains down my leg I have been experiencing…and yesterday I realized I felt no pain. Coincidence…perhaps…but then Big Red was always there for me to make me feel better…I will think of it as the last gift.

So until tomorrow...”May Little Red grow new leaves and buds and so will I…so will I.” 

“Bread feeds the body and flowers feed the soul”  How true! Thank you Big Red for feeding my soul for ten wonderful years.

“Today is my favorite day”  Winnie the Pooh

 

Yesterday was Meet the Teacher Day.…a most exciting day in a child’s life. Eva Cate loves her new teacher, Mrs. Bodie….and Jakie likes her too. Also, Eva Cate’s best friend, Lily, is in her class this year. Happiness is…

 

 

Rutledge loves his new kindergarten teacher too! Her name is Mrs. Bendig and he, also, knows one other little girl, Maggie Bailey, who will be in his class.

Eva Cate and Rutledge can hardly wait for school to start now…they both have wonderful teachers!

 

 

*Just heard from Bekah and Ady is also thrilled with her teacher for fourth grade, Mrs. Atkins! Wow! Three out of three…can’t beat that. Here’s wishing everyone a most wonderful school year!

 

 

 

 

 

 

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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7 Responses to “Red Flower will grow new Leaves and Buds…and so will we, so will we!”

  1. bcparkison says:

    Oh Becky I am so sorry about Big Red. But wasn’t he a blessing leaving behind a little chap of a plant to carry on .Big Red really out did himself at the end, like my lemon tree.The lemon tree had tried to poop out several times but always came back . ( Too cold a winter several times)Then this past season there were over 6 doz. lemons grapefruit size. Then it started to poop out again. Now it is coming back but it will be a while before there is a harvest. Nature is so much fun to watch and learn from.
    Everyone here is back in school too..Looking forward to a good year.

  2. Jo Dufford says:

    Oh, Becky, I am so sad about Big Red. He was special to so many of us. I can remember asking about him because he was like a member of our blog family too. Big Red was a wonderful name because in so many ways he was really Big. Yes, he was big in size, he grew the most gorgeous big flowers, and apparently it was the big numbers of them that finally did him in, but then he would never give it less than his best no matter what. Besides that he was big in giving added comfort and joy to those who knew him. And who knows maybe that last Big gift may be an offspring who will do Big things too. (You called him Little Red’s Father, so I chose to give him the masculine gender pronoun. Somehow,” he” just lets us know how really special Big Red was On a happier note, Isn’t it always exciting to see children getting ready for the first day at school? I never lost the feeling of excitement on the first day of a new school year.

    • Becky Dingle says:

      I never did either Jo…was always excited about the first day of school and new possibilities of students who would go on to be curious learners for the rest of their lives. You said it perfectly…Big Red gave his blooms so abundantly to everyone that in the end it brought him down…but I feel sure if he had to do it again…he would. Thanks Jo…always look forward to your comments…and I don’t care about a comma or a period…just you.

  3. Jo Dufford says:

    Obviously, there is a period omitted here and also a new paragraph designation. Sorry.

  4. Patty Knight says:

    Dear sweet Becky,
    I will be missing Big Red with you!!! He was such a huge part of your blog. I so miss your blog being on FB too. We love you, sweet friend. Thank you for your sweet card you sent to Kristen! Loved seeing your pictures of Eva Cate and Rutledge with their teachers. Also loved seeing Eloise sitting up.
    If you haven’t seen Christopher Robin, the movie, please go… you will love it.

    Also the book Tending Roses is a good one!!
    Love you, Patty Knight

    • Becky Dingle says:

      Thank you Patty for your sweet comments on Big Red…every time I walk across the porch I feel a little sigh escaping my lips. I hope this year is the big break-out year for Kristen…breaking out and away from “little c”…it has hung around long enough for her. I plan to go see Christopher Robin this week….had planned to see it with Eva Cate but she wanted to see Transylvania animated cartoon…I have to admit it was funny but was so ready to see Christopher Robin. Love you Patty! Love Becky

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