Why ” Not Being Fine” is Perfectly Fine

Dear Reader:

Don’t you just love this card? (Etsy.com) It gets right to the heart of the matter… hiding our true human feelings under layers of societal politeness. We are all afraid to appear vulnerable.

When we tell others we feel fine when we don’t… we are making mental comparisons… Fine as in comparison to being alive rather than not or fine as in walking and talking rather than not. We humans play such complicated mind games with ourselves.

Brene Brown sums it up best… All of us fight hidden, silent battles against not being good enough, not having enough, and not belonging enough.

I love this original story she created to explain how important it is to recognize our humanness for what it is… imperfection.

She pictures a vast room filled with boxes marked for perfection because the reality is most modern inventions require perfection or they don’t work at all… airplanes, trains, boats, cars, surgery utensils, construction, etc. But after all these boxes were labeled.. there was a lot of paraphernalia left marked imperfection.

The name on the huge tattered box was ART because ART most closely resembles what it is like to be human/to be alive. It is in our very nature to be imperfect, to have uncategorized feelings and emotions , to make or do things that don’t necessarily make sense… ART is all perfectly imperfect.

So until tomorrow… It is in our imperfections and vulnerabilities that we discover our true selves and we finally understand just how much more lovable imperfection is over living with perfection!

Today is my favorite day-Winnie the Pooh

Vickie’s lavender trumpet vine!
Vickie’s window garden!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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1 Response to Why ” Not Being Fine” is Perfectly Fine

  1. Bernice Sturkie says:

    Oh, Becky,
    your gorgeous garden pics are just what I need this morning to motivate me with my garden that is crying for some major TLC. Thanks a bunch!!!


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