Once is Enough…

Dear Reader:

Have you ever contemplated what your response would be if you could repeat your life over-or perhaps just one particular stage… a chance to right the mistakes made along the way?

In one new daily insight journal ( Wisdom for the Way) a general observation was thrown out… citing that most parents would love to step into a time machine and would give anything to relive those years … correcting failures and mistakes committed the first time around with their children.

True confession time… I must not be ” most parents.” I have absolutely no desire to ” re-do” or relive rearing children years! Honestly that period of my life was so hard-it is still a blur-like we were all on the biggest and fastest roller coaster in existence…and we just held on for dear life!

That’s not to say…there weren’t beautiful moments and satisfying situations that I keep in my special treasure box (that can still bring tears to my eyes …even now.)

And that’s not to say I didn’t make mistakes … Oh I made plenty! It’s just that I did the best I could with what I had and now it seems nothing short of miraculous that we all survived it, even thrived in it and at the end three children got their college degrees and mom got her Masters.

God sent me the right people at the right time to keep us afloat and keep hope alive! I am glad that parenting only offers one round per child, one day at a time… never to be repeated. ( Instead if we are lucky we get grandchildren and therein lies another chance to mold and model another generation.)

So until tomorrow… ” Life is like a coin-you can spend it anyway you wish… but you can spend it only once.”

” Today is my favorite day” Winnie the Pooh

P. S. And actually watching adult ” children” keep learning and paying it forward-is the most satisfying gift of all for a parent! If one’s children are adults who give back to the world of their talents and treat others with kindness… you did something right!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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5 Responses to Once is Enough…

  1. Rachel Edwards says:

    Amen …Amen…so true…love your picture of you and your 3 fine children…job well done

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    • Becky Dingle says:

      Back at you That chocolate milkshake took me over the moon…thawed soup for supper!

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      • Becky Dingle says:

        Back at you! That chocolate milkshake was the best treat I have had in a long time!!! Thawing soup for supper!!! Good to see the gang again!!!!

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  2. Beth says:

    Great words, Becky. I used to say “tie another knot in that rope and hang on”! Beautiful kids and their mom!

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