Self-Talk… You’re Not Crazy… You’re Improving Your Mental and Emotional IQ

Dear Reader:

How many of us have gotten caught talking to ourselves and been given the ” look” from a friend or stranger… followed by the dreaded question ” Are you talking to yourself?”

Most of my generation grew up with the wives tale that people who talked to themselves were sorta looney. Not so… says modern psychologists… in fact… just the opposite!

One article I read… measured concentration and performance of talking through and reading aloud information … discovering it dramatically improved memory retention .

I think most of us can admit to talking ourselves through mundane problems – solving situations like where we last left those car keys… by talking aloud our memory visualizes the rooms we entered carrying the keys until suddenly we know where they are… on the bed where you were when you got a phone call and placed them right beside you.

I have learned from experience that if I want to remember an amazing line of thought from a book I am reading… I find myself reading the line over and over aloud… that sends it directly to my memory bank.

Haven’t we all heard toddlers walk by a fireplace and say ” No No …hot hot” aloud? We adults are thinking the same thing but now that conversation takes the form of inner self talk… memory talk.

And think about athletes… haven’t we all witnessed professional tennis players talking to themselves … thus boosting their self-confidence by self-encouragement.

Research has shown that the mind doesn’t differentiate between talking to yourself out loud or in your head. You should engage in whichever form of self-talk is most comfortable for you.

I remember mother would some times tell us ( as children if we did something intentionally wrong) that we needed to ” give ourselves a good talking to” because we were raised to know better than that.” She was right. We were!

So until tomorrow… inner talk helps us organize our thoughts, plan actions or steps, and consolidate memory… talking out loud improves one’s control over a task! So all you readers… talk away to yourselves…you’re just getting smarter ! Stare down those strange looks at the grocery store!

Today is my favorite day… Winnie the Pooh

***Libby said to thank everyone for their prayers yesterday… she will have to wait on test results but just so relieved to be able to X out Feb 1 on her calendar… and thankful to the ” rabbits” too!


Just a short update… several of you have mentioned that recently the blog post is no longer showing up daily on your email… it can be googled and it is there everyday but no longer automatically being posted to your personal email account.

Trying to get to the bottom of this quirk… so if anyone has any helpful advice for those readers who are experiencing these email annoyances… please share your expertise since we have many talented blog writers, themselves, who also read Chapelofhopestories. Thank you!

Still clean and I even ordered a seat for me to elevate my driver’s vision and keep the upholstery looking good!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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6 Responses to Self-Talk… You’re Not Crazy… You’re Improving Your Mental and Emotional IQ

  1. Linda Carson says:

    I did miss a few days after Harriet Tubman in my email. Then this Monday they appeared again. I was so thankful! They start off my day on the right foot. I was able to go online and catch up. This is such a gift and I always am in awe of my friend and favorite blogger. Have a wonderful day! In love and prayers, Linda


    • Becky Dingle says:

      Awww Linda! What a way to wake up this morning to such a nice comment plus the reassurance that WordPress is getting back on track with restoring the pop-up daily emails. The problem started with having to sign into the hotel’s internet … I was having problems scheduling the posts… hopefully being home again has gotten the posts back on track and the emails starting to daily show up again! 🤞

      Sent from my iPhone


  2. Rachel Edwards says:

    As I have gotten old-der (as my granddaughter says) I tend to have to say out loud what I need to accomplish each days…Fred can’t understand it but it helps remind me of all that I need to get done. By the way I love your steering wheel cover…


    • Becky Dingle says:

      Aww… thank you! Ordered it from Natural Life. And it does help to organize our thoughts by orally sequencing daily tasks! Now you have the ” experts” encouraging you to continue this ritual… do let Fred know!

      Sent from my iPhone


  3. Johnny Johnson says:

    Mrs. Dingle, I am really glad to hear I am not the only person that talks to themselves. My Grandmother gave me a complex about. But still I talked to myself! But every time I was caught by my Grandmother I would hear the same thing, “ who are you talking to?” Never failed! So around age of 12-14 I took my talking to myself to a new level. And I am hoping I am not the only one that talks to themselves silently. I still do, talk myself through everything! I find if I am not talking to myself I am not paying attention to what I am doing and that leads to a lot of “Oh Nos” when I have at worse cut myself, or messed up all I was working on and have to start over kind of thing. It seems now thanks to my Grandmother I talk to myself silently. I still from time to time talk to myself audibly but not as often as my silent talks. Wonder who am I talking to and just who is it that’s talking me through tasks at hand, or going over studying for a test in school during my school days. Have you ever thought about who is it in there that’s talking to me. Well haven’t totally figured out just who it is, but I pray for him to keep talking to so I can keep going! Then I thought, maybe it’s God talking to me!! So with that thought, I encourage that other person, that I know is just my subconscious self talking to the conscience me. I guess! Because it seem like something from the twilight zone, I just don’t think about it much anymore, just thankful the voice keeps talking me through everything and I think I will be in trouble when and if God stops talking to me! I have settled on God is who is in there! Makes me feel less mentally unstable! I am glad to hear there’s a lot of us that God is inside talking us through life in everything we do, aren’t you?


    • Becky Dingle says:

      I agree whole-heartedly Johnny… we are transient… changing our entire lives and God is our anchor and tour guide! 👍💗

      Sent from my iPhone


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