A House is Who You Are…Not Who You Ought To Be

Dear Reader:

When it comes to old homes ( my home) there are so many things that need fixing … I feel immobilized where to start because everything is a ” big ticket item” … under headings like electricity, plumbing, new floors, new appliances, moisture issues… new bathrooms-pretty much the whole house except for the specific rooms I sleep in, den and creative computer room by the side garden. This is my world I live in.

It is also the reason I spend so much time outside ( except lately with the triple digits) -there the beauty is stationary … just hanging out with Mother Earth. No expensive repairs needed.

I used to tell visitors who stopped by that ” If I had the money to redecorate… you’d see the real me.” No longer… what you see IS the real me… who lives in a deteriorating house and prefers to concentrate on making a few spots ” happy places” and ignoring the rest…

Sarah Breathnach ( Simple Abundance) says it best: Tools for happy living/Acceptance, blessing our circumstances, and understanding that happiness lives inside us… not personal belongings ( or lack of).

When I get down sometimes on reality over dreams…that make up my life… I remember this passage: ” Walk around your rooms and offer thanks for the walls, and roof that safely enclose you. Pause for a moment to consider all the women who have lost their homes through death, divorce, debt or disaster. Be grateful for the house you have, knowing that, at the moment, all you have is all you truly need.

So until tomorrow… When people come to my house… I hope they feel the happy spaces -home is a feeling! Home is smiles!

I babysat Saturday night so Mandy could take John out for Father’s Day/

Today is my favorite day… Winnie the Pooh

Walsh, Mollie and the kids left for Carowinds Friday for Walsh’s company had bought tickets for all employees but alas thunderstorms prevented them from getting to ride the rides … very disappointing… but then they went on to Charlotte for Rutledge his ” Loggerhead”lacrosse team to play in another southeastern tournament and the winds of chance blew more favorably-they won the tournament once again.

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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3 Responses to A House is Who You Are…Not Who You Ought To Be

  1. Honey Burrell says:

    Your home always makes me happy! Sorry the storms dampened the children’s spirits, but so happy for Rutledge’s WIN! Have a great day!❤️


  2. Becky Dingle says:

    Thank you Honey….I am thankful to have it….sacrificed a lot to keep it!!!


  3. Beverly Dufford says:

    I absolutely love sitting in your happy room. It makes me feel so warm and welcome. I decided a long time ago, my home was my place to feel at peace and happy so in order to have that feeling it had to have pictures of family and other little things that brought back good memories. I wanted a place that was lived in and where memories were made. Congratulations again to Rutledge’s team. If I am remembering correctly, his dad was quite the athlete also?


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