People Pleasers… Beware!

It was an ” one-eyed, one horned purple people- eater! ”

Dear Reader:

When you read how strangely my mind works making connections today …you might wonder what is scarier… me or the purple people eater!

It started out innocently enough as I was listening to Rachel Ray talk to humorous self-help author, Glennon Doyle, who was talking about the dangers of becoming a life- long people pleaser and losing oneself in the process. Letting fear of originality and free thinking in society stymie our imagination and God-given creativity in order to fit into society’s interpretation of a successful life.

I only heard ” Danger” ” People” ” Pleaser” ” imagination ” and bingo… I was a child laughing and dancing to the lyrics of a purple people eater who wants to join a rock and roll band! The image of a purple people eater instantly materialized! My crazy crazy connective neurons!

As I looked up quotes from the author’s latest book I got the distinct feeling I was suppose to go down this path -especially when I read ” Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality, but where we go to remember it.”

I am a ” people pleaser” by either nature or early training but I have had to learn to avoid the now obvious pitfalls that go along with trading one’s uniqueness for acceptance. I tried to avoid conflict at all cost growing up mainly to make mother’s life easier.

I have to agree with the boy’s ” best discovery” when he tells the mole-it is realizing ” I am enough as I am.” ( The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse)

My favorite quote that brings me much comfort is ” When life gets hard it is because you’re doing it right.” ( not wrong) If we do nothing for ourselves or others life could be easier BUT for what? Just existing but never living? What a waste of oxygen!

So until tomorrow… one bit of advice from this ole’ retired teacher is ” You must keep learning to keep becoming.”

Today is my favorite day-Winnie the Pooh

Talking about never giving up… brutal winds, then a hard freeze and look what I saw yesterday afternoon! Miraculous! I burst out laughing! Those amazing morning glories!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to People Pleasers… Beware!

  1. Cindy Ashley says:

    Becky, I think I am also a people pleaser. Could it be because we are under the sign of Libra?
    Best wishes for a happy New Year.
    Cindy

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.