I have a few precious hours of alone time today and part of me just wants to sleep!
So I will throw some random thoughts today out in the universe. My brother Ben worked with mentally challenged children in the school system his whole career. He always preached about the error of labeling a mentally challenged child with such negativity that the label stuck forever.
One year he even had tomato soup cans outside his office to give to parents of mentally challenged children when they worked together to provide hope not labels.
And now ironically it is Ben who will soon be given a label that will determine where he will be placed for the best surroundings or as the Veterans Administration calls it-LOC-Level of Care.
And for all of you who have walked this path with a loved one-it ” ain’t” easy. Forms, forms, and more forms-every finding requires another finding and so on and so on.
I went down this same path with mother. I dreaded the day when she didn’t know my name or relationship. And it came… but not before another ” label” replaced it!
As I would enter the gathering room where every patient sat in a wheelchair staring at the entrance door… mom’s cohorts would shout ” There she is” and excitedly look at mother. Then mother would call out smiling ” There you are” and wiggle her fingers at me.
You know what? I remained “There you are” until mom died. You know what? That was just fine-I knew in my heart that I was the one Mom had been waiting for and that was enough!
So until tomorrow… start practicing building up your EQ -Emotional Quotient because in the end it is all that matters!
” Today is my favorite day” Winnie the Pooh