“I’ve Never Been to Me”

Dear Reader:

While picking up some CVS prescriptions yesterday a song came on Casey Kasem’s Top Forty from 1977. One song I didn’t remember or the English singer ( Charlene) had a stanza that caught my curiosity-“I’ve been to Paradise but I’ve never been to me. ” I started mulling the phrase over and over.

Off the top of my head I figured from the complete lyrics that the woman in the song had fulfilled all her material and fantasy dreams-money, travel to exotic places while ultimately failing to find personal fulfillment.

When I pulled the phrase up on the internet an article from Psychology Today popped up. It started talking about the relationship in ourselves between ” I” and “Me, Myself. ” Haven’t we all found ourselves talking to ourselves-where one side of us is admonishing the other?

I do this more often as I age… talking to myself to chill or do something I don’t want to do but know I should… the secret to inner happiness is getting “I” and “Myself on the same team!

Something like…”I tell myself to calm down and take it one step at a time. ”

So until tomorrow -mother probably summed it up best…” Before you can love someone else… you must first love yourself-find that inner peace… and then go to paradise!

” Today is my favorite day” Winnie the Pooh

It is also a special anniversary… John and Mandy’s 13th anniversary-May 3 2008!

Two weeks later ( after the wedding) I was diagnosed with breast cancer with a three year prediction of life-two years later Eva Cate arrived and I knew I wasn’t going anywhere with God’s help-and obviously His plan has been for me to hang around to see my children married with adorable grandchildren -five… to date.. and five precious grand dogs!

I can find paradise in my garden simply by looking at things with a different perspective!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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2 Responses to “I’ve Never Been to Me”

  1. Rachel Edwards says:

    Happy Anniversary to Mandy and John. Her bridal picture is gorgeous. And thanks be to God that you are still with us …and still enjoying life each day.❤

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    • Becky Dingle says:

      So sweet! It was a beautiful wedding…and yes God definitely has had plans for me…just glad they are taking a long to unfold…giving me more opportunities to watch my grandchildren grow…like my garden!

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