Showing Up at the Right Moment in Time

Dear Reader:

The other day a talk show was discussing the four components to raising well-rounded, secure children…it doesn’t time, money, an expensive car or home…it simply takes adults giving up their personal  “Presence” time to share thoughts together with others. (the most powerful gift of all adults can give their children.)

The authors list the four components as:

Safe: We can’t always insulate a child from injury or avoid doing something that leads to hurt feelings. But when we give a child a sense of safe harbor, he/she will be able to take the needed risks for growth and change.
Seen: Truly seeing a child means we pay attention to his/her emotions—both positive and negative—and strive to attune to what’s happening in his mind…beneath the behavior.
Soothed: Soothing isn’t about providing a life of ease; it’s about teaching your child how to cope when life gets hard, and showing him/her that you’ll be there with him along the way. A soothed child knows that he’ll never have to suffer alone.
Secure: When a child knows he/she can count on you, time and again, to show up—when you reliably provide safety, focus on seeing her, and soothe her in times of need, she will trust in a feeling of secure attachment. And thrive!


I am giving a much appreciated shout-out to Dr. Montoya for “Showing Up” for me. She went the extra mile yesterday. I called and talked to Linda, one of the receptionists, and explained that I was slowly improving from my chest congestion with the exception of a wicked cough I could not only, not get rid of, but it kept me up all night every night…I was totally exhausted. Could she please find me something that would start knocking that cough out…my insides were sore from so much coughing.

I left a message…”Surprise me with your magic.” Dr. Montoya knew my body needed help to fight this congestion with the side effects of the drugs I am on… so she gave me two armed “body guards”- Amoxicillin and Benzonatate….two “body guards” that hopefully will kick “arse” and bring me back to “normalcy” peace and healing. Thank you so much ….I have never been so happy to start on drugs that will boost my energy level and healing capabilities.

How many of us have had to “show up” for a very difficult conversation in life- particularly involving serious conversations with loved ones? It isn’t easy is it…in fact it is downright scary. But we do it…we show up for life…because that is what life gives up…the ups and downs and everything in between.

The most important thing we can all do is keep showing up for life to let it know…regardless of what is going on…life is the most precious thing around and always worth fighting for…along with those who care for us. Invincible! *Hugs leaving for Cyberspace! 🙂





About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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4 Responses to Showing Up at the Right Moment in Time

  1. Jo dufford says:

    Dr Montoya is an angel disguised as a doctor. The thing I like best about her is no matter how busy she is she always has time to look at you and hear what you are trying to tell her. Glad she is your doctor because you have the best. “Showing up” is as good as anyone can do. Thanks for this blog today. I’m


    • Becky Dingle says:

      I think all we patients need to make her an angel costume for Christmas this year with a stethoscope attached to her wings! “) Such a sweet tribute Jo!


  2. Rachel Edwards says:

    Prayers that your cough will go away can drain you especially when it lingers…feel better soon.


    • Becky Dingle says:

      For the first time this evening…with almost a full days of two different sets of antibiotics in me…I feel human again…hope is alive and well again.


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