We Don’t Have to Be Always Right, Just to Love

Dear Reader:

I think all of us have struggled within some kind of mental conflict -between divine pre-destination and free will. Like Madeleine L’Engle stated…

“I can not believe that terrible afflictions are purposefully handed out to each of us personally. Everything is me rebels against that concept. I cannot live in a world where everything is supposedly predetermined, an ant world in which there is no element of choice. I do believe that we all have a share in the writing of our own story. We do get to make choices and decisions at our life’s crossroads.”

What got me started thinking along these difficult ‘big questions in life’ was a Thanksgiving greeting to breast cancer thrivers that popped up on my email.

Underneath the picture was a quote that read:

“I am thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.”

I think this is what Madeleine L’Engle meant when she said… we do have a choice to make at the crosssroads in life as how we handle what befalls us. Here are some examples she gave.

Milton could have retreated into passive blindness and self-pity instead of trying the patience of his three dutiful daughters and any visiting friend by insisting that they write down what he dictated.

Beethoven could have remained in the gloom of silence instead of forging the glorious sounds which he could never hear except in his artist’s imagination.

Sometimes the very impetus of overcoming obstacles results in a surge of creativity. It is in our responses that we are given the gift of helping God write our story.  (Walking on Water L’Engle)

I started writing this blog post August 7, 2010…less than two weeks after I first visited St. Jude’s Chapel of Hope in Trust, North Carolina in late July. (Can you believe it Honey that this July will mark the 10th anniversary since my epiphany at the little chapel in the woods?)

Many a day as I start a post with one idea in mind I find my fingers  typing something completely different than what I initially planned. I realize now that it isn’t always something that I personally needed to address but that there was someone out there who was waiting to hear what was written in the blog. God helps me each and every day with my blog…He is, undeniably, my permanent co-author.

*Ambika was such an example…she was living in Dubai at the time she inadvertently discovered my blog. She was at a crossroads in her life (professionally and personally)…She googled the term HOPE and my Chapelofhopestories.com popped up.

It just so happened that this particular post that day addressed her conflicting feelings she was undergoing at the time. Isn’t God amazing as He “works in mysterious ways?” (Love you Ambika!!!)


If you would like read more about Ambika’s story- you can pull it on…(***The Chapel’s Gift of Hope- Ambika’s Story-March 24, 2016)

So until tomorrow…”The things you do for yourself are gone when you are gone, but the things you do for others remain as your legacy.”

“Today is my favorite day”  Winnie the Pooh

I woke up to the morning sun turning Vickie’s Maple tree a fiery golden color…I texted her to say I thought it was the ‘burning bush’ for a moment. 🙂

 ***A hope and a prayer for Eva Cate and John this morning for a successful finish…Eva Cate has participated in a Girls on the Run after school program –

It is a great program as each child runs with a different ‘buddy’ throughout the practice semester…getting to know students they would not have otherwise. (And certainly a great form of exercise after school)

For the finale this morning Eva Cate will be running with dad in the 5K (3 mile run)…John I hope you have your magic running shoes on…Eva Cate is fast! Good luck Terrific Turner Team!



About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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4 Responses to We Don’t Have to Be Always Right, Just to Love

  1. Rachel Edwards says:

    It is hard to believe that the Chapel of Hope blog has been around almost a decade. What a blessing it has been to so many people all ovwr the world who need a hope in some way each day. Thank you for sharing your gift each day in your own unique way. Love Vicky’s tree and the family picture…and good luck to Eva CRate…Emmie particiaped in that too…


    • Becky Dingle says:

      A decade…a miraculous decade indeed…one I never thought I would be around for…
      I hope a blog here and there helps someone…if nothing more than show them they are not isolated in their feelings…but shared by others going through similar obstacles.. Eva Cate had a ball last Saturday…she and John kicked it for sure! She is a fast little runner!


  2. ambikasur says:

    Becky, how did I pop up in your mind all of a sudden????
    I mean it’s overwhelming, really…
    Anyway, hope you all are doing good, we too are well by God’s grace… As I informed you earlier, we r expecting our third little one and my due is next month… Hopefully a Christmas gift from God… 😉😉😉… I need all of your prayers… Will pray for you all too…
    Take care… God bless…


    • Becky Dingle says:

      Somehow I missed out or didn’t see the news about baby 3! And a Christmas baby…two of three children wee Kringle Dingles too! Always a wonderful gift for the holidays! You have our continued prayers for another healthy beautiful baby…maybe a girl this time? 🙂


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