“Waiting”- Complicated and Contradictory

Dear Reader:

One of the hardest things we face, as humans on earth, is waiting…not just waiting for the sake of waiting…but knowing when to wait and when to act. From the time we are children we get such contradictory advice about this important lesson in life.

Dr. Seuss warns us about getting stuck in the Waiting Room.…He describes it as….

“People just waiting. Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the mail to come, or the rain to go, or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or No or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is just waiting.”

Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite or waiting around for Friday night or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil, or a Better Break or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants or a wig with curls, or Another Chance. Everyone is just waiting.”

His advice matches John Lennon’s famous advice…”Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans.” In other words…while waiting to make decisions ….life goes on with or without us present to it.

It is this line of advice that makes me extremely anxious….am I guilty of this? “Am I overthinking projects, ideas, or plans instead of just getting out there and doing them?” “Is life passing me by?”

Yet on the flip side…we have also received advice from our elders and others about taking time to ‘look before we leap‘ or repeating the English proverb…“Good things come to those who wait.”

This tug-of-war advice is enough to give us a headache when we are going through life-altering changes and wondering if we should take the first offer on the house or wait….or commit to a relationship or wait a little longer…perhaps wait on the decision to move until certain things have ‘fallen into place’ or wait for ‘signs’ to give us more direction in any changing endeavor we face.

I think this is where I find myself, these days, in my stage of life. I don’t know the answers to so many “waiting” questions…but God does. And the irony is…while we are waiting…God is working. Have we ever considered that waiting gives God time to change us...because if we aren’t different before we makes certain changes..then the results of what we wish to reap will go back to the axiom…”We reap what we sow.” (Repeated patterns of  mistaken ideas bringing more disappointment.)

I came across the same questions being asked (in beautiful prose) by my lovely daughter-in-law, Kaitlyn. I love her writings because they are so sincere, down-to-earth, honest and yet ethereal in their imagery.

I texted to see if I could borrow her thoughts for today’s post and she, as usual, gave me a resounding “Of course!”

What if it didn’t have to be so hard?

What if I didn’t have to hold on so tight?

What if I trusted that what should come, will?

What if I found patience in the waiting?

What if that’s where the lessons lie?

I don’t have to try so hard

I can let go

I trust the universe

I live for right now

I am learning


Luke told me about this cartoon he saw recently and then shared it with me. It made me realize once again…that if we humans could love unconditionally we would never overthink things but accept life, even waiting, as a joyous phase in life.

I told Luke, Kaitlyn, that you would love this cartoon especially!

So until tomorrow…Let’s try waiting to follow through… until we feel universally and spiritually directed towards a certain place or experience that is calling us.

“Today is my favorite day”  Winnie the Pooh

Come stroll with me in my garden on a beautiful Sunday summer day!

And look who is getting ready to return again….my Mr. Lincoln Rose! I am so excited! Just a thought…wouldn’t it be wonderful if President Lincoln could return too….but then I wonder if he would think his Civil War paled in comparison with ours today???  🙂

Surprise visit to see Ted and Brooke yesterday…everyone is doing amazingly great! Oreo, their cat doesn’t let them out of his sight….a month without his ‘mom and dad’ was way too long.

Brooke’s back patio is her “Happy Place”….we didn’t solve all the world’s problems yesterday but we gave it our best effort!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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2 Responses to “Waiting”- Complicated and Contradictory

  1. bcparkison says:

    I think it has been mentioned before that I have an over all feeling of waiting. Its been there since Troy passed and goodness I haven’t any idea what I’m waiting for. Only God knows and these ‘rabbit trails’ keep jumping out in the path. Time will tell.


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