Pause Between Those 50,000 Thoughts Per Day


Dear Reader:

I was shocked when I read the average person has anywhere from 50 to 70 thousand thoughts going through him or her on any given day!! What? How many? No wonder the biggest problem in modern-day relationships is lack of communication…we are too busy thinking to talk…at least coherently and sincerely.

If all our thinking was positive and good…that would be crowded enough but add in our negative thoughts and we are back in college trying to stuff one more person in the telephone booth. (Now that remark really aged me! :))

In a nutshell…we need to stop talking and try “being”; just simply “being.”

(Source: The Blog: “There are 50,000 Thoughts Standing Between You and Your Partner Every Day!” ( Bruce Davis, Ph.D.)

“The answer is finding time for simply being, being in silence together. This can be an evening stroll, a visit to the ocean, making a retreat. Healing begins in any activity that is without the expectation of talking, with no demands to finish the unfinished conversation. When there are no expectations, we can enjoy the peace and quiet. The heart is free to soften and open. A quiet mind makes for an available heart. When one is not so overwhelmed with one’s self, there is room for some one else.”

Davis talks about the “joy of solitude.” Being silent isn’t just about not talking…it is revealing the true essence of who we are…the person we each fell in love with at some point.

…”Each person in our life has a unique quality of stillness, a unique presence of love. This is the part of us that is more than our thoughts, more than our words. It is our essence, our being, the abundance of life that radiates from us. The silent presence in each person is totally unique.”

So until tomorrow…Our “pause moment” at this moment is discovering once again our joy of silently shared solitude.” 

“Today is my favorite day”  Winnie the Pooh

So happy Tommy and Kaitlyn found Dingle as enchanting as Anne and I did! It is hard to describe its beauty.


About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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1 Response to Pause Between Those 50,000 Thoughts Per Day

  1. Rachel Edwards says:

    So glad that they got there…it is truly beautiful…


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