Memorial Day-Do It for Others

Dear Reader:

A few weeks ago my brother Ben called and said he had an epiphany. He was very excited about it.

In Ben’s story he describes what can only be deemed as Divine Intervention episodes that took place throughout his 1968 tour of duty in Vietnam. Yet he, himself, personally questioned why he seemed chosen to receive these life-altering warnings that saved his life numerous times in the jungle terrain.

“Why me Lord?” he questioned God repeatedly with no concrete response. And then recently he realized that God knew in the all-too immediate future David, his younger brother would be taken from our family… if he died in Vietnam followed by David’s sudden death four years later… poor mother, who had lost her husband at 31, her hand to cancer soon after …would be faced with the loss of two sons?

Ben said he thought he was saved, not just for himself but also for mother and our family. It got me thinking…

Don’t we all see and hear public service announcements that remind us to wear masks or buckle up when we drive… if not for us… for our loved ones?

And isn’t a mother’s prayer one of the strongest prayer links in humanity-the most unselfish-praying for their children’s lives-gladly willing to substitute their life for their child’s?

Shortly after arriving in Vietnam Ben’s unit was almost completely wiped out and mother received notification her son was missing in action. It was Mother’s Day.

It was the saddest Mother’s Day ever… no matter how hard David and I tried… mother was inconsolable. I just remember David and I hugging her as she wept and prayed.

But then three weeks later on Memorial Day 1968 word came that Ben had been picked up by a patrol boat along with a handful of other survivors and he was being treated for wounds deemed non life threatening!

That Memorial Day was filled with prayers of relief and thankfulness! Mother even found a tablecloth that said ” Blessings” on it where we gathered to eat, laugh and rejoice in life that special holiday!

Ben would return home with two Purple Hearts-one was buried with David and the other with mother.

So until tomorrow… ” If not for us… for others” … God’s loving directive for us to make good decisions that enhance not only our own lives… but others!

“Today is my favorite day” Winnie the Pooh

Let’s all begin today considering the consequences of our decisions and choices on the feelings and lives of those we care about…

Ashley had to return to the hospital with more medical complications including infection! Please Please keep the prayers coming!!!

About Becky Dingle

I was born a Tarheel but ended up a Sandlapper. My grandparents were cotton farmers in Laurens, South Carolina and it was in my grandmother’s house that my love of storytelling began beside an old Franklin stove. When I graduated from Laurens High School, I attended Erskine College (Due West of what?) and would later get my Masters Degree in Education/Social Studies from Charleston Southern. I am presently an adjunct professor/clinical supervisor at CSU and have also taught at the College of Charleston. For 28 years I taught Social Studies through storytelling. My philosophy matched Rudyard Kipling’s quote: “If history were taught in the form of stories, it would never be forgotten.” Today I still spread this message through workshops and presentations throughout the state. The secret of success in teaching social studies is always in the story. I want to keep learning and being surprised by life…it is the greatest teacher. Like Kermit said, “When you’re green you grow, when you’re ripe you rot.”
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2 Responses to Memorial Day-Do It for Others

  1. Rachel Edwards says:

    Becky…please thank Ben for his service. What a beautiful and thoughtful blog entry today in tribute to those who served…those who died and those who survived to return home to their families and Mothers…there is no love like a Mother’s and I am sure God intervened for your Mother and Ben…thanks for sharing.
    Prayers for Ashley…

    • Becky Dingle says:

      Thank you Gin-g…am praying daily for you and your family and Suzy and hers…so wish I could snap my fingers and these health problems would vanish like a Genie in a bottle for Suzy… but such is not possible in we mere mortals’ lives…thank goodness, however, God has another life in mind for us with hopefully not as many trying circumstances but simply being bathed in God’s love 24/7. That is my hope for Suzy and for all of us one day.

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